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Two years ago I had no idea that codependency was "a thing", let alone "a thing" that I had been doing for most of my life in my romantic and non-romantic relationships. Being a codependent is like being addicted to crappy relationships usually with addicts, abusers, and people with physical and mental health issues. My healing process helped me see that abuse and other people's actions were not my fault, but it also made me wonder why I kept being attracted to people, particularly romantic partners who were controlling, abusive, addicts, and generally dysfunctional. Finally, I realized that I had to stop blaming others for my issues and take a hard look at myself. I stepped out of denial and into self-awareness that I struggled with low self-esteem, shame, unresolved past hurts, perfectionism, people pleasing, lack of boundaries, and my own control issues. Beside these things wreaking havoc on my thought patterns and emotions they were also leading me to be attracted to a certain type of man. The certain type of man who beats you, mistreats you, and who keeps you crawling back for more (yes I did go back, multiple times). So, if this sounds all too familiar stick around as I explore different way to overcome codependency. To find out more about codependency please refer to the resource tab in the top menu.