Resources
Overcoming Abuse
Being in an abusive cycle often left me in state of uncertainty. How could the person I loved treat me so well one day and like trash the next? I thought that things would get better, but each time things seemed to get worse. Was I just imagining it? No, I wasn't and neither are you. The abuser's various manipulation tactics lead to confusion, dependence, and fear. To learn more about the abusive cycle and how to break free from it please refer to the listed resources below.
Getting Through Divorce
Now on the other side of divorce I realize that so many people struggle with the same financial, emotional, and even spiritual ramifications that action has not only on oneself, but others. Divorce is the loss of more than just a marriage. It is also the loss of the future you imagined with your spouse. No one should struggle with divorce alone. Please see the resources below for further support.
Understanding Codependency
My codependent tendencies began in childhood as survival mechanisms. Unfortunately, as an adult codependency lead me into many dysfunctional relationships. In my quest to find love and acceptance I enabled other's unhealthy behaviors and allowed their opinions to define and control me. Several of the resources listed below will help you better understand codependency and how to stop following it's destructive pattern.
Next Steps...
Seeking out professional help from mental health workers such as licensed therapists and counselors has been essential to my healing process. I encourage you to find a local professional who can help guide you through recovery. Some universities and colleges provide discounted therapy for people without insurance. Local charities and religious groups may also have free counseling available. Support groups are free and a great way to build a support system with others who share similar struggles. Finally, you may consider entering a twelve step program. I participate in Celebrate Recovery, which is a Christian 12 step program that helps people heal from hurts, habits, and hang ups. During difficult times I can feel alone and hopeless. Sometimes there are feelings and aspects of my life I do not want to share with family and friends. Interacting with a therapist and my support groups help me get through some of my most difficult times. I encourage you to reach out to local organizations for support.